Why Homeschooling Isn’t For All Single Parents
Why homeschooling isn’t for all Single Parents.? A lot of Parents are starting to ask this question. And rightfully so as more people become more knowledgeable about his story, her story, and my story. Okay, I played with the words but I think you get it. In fact, single parents are searching more and more for the idea of teaching their children themselves.
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The advantage to this is that most states allow homeschooled students to choose what, when and how they want to learn. And of course for as long as they need to in order to fully grasp the subject. Meanwhile still following homeschool curriculum provided by the state.
The common concerns that come up when contemplating doing this are:
- Will my child be a social misfit?
- Will they be able to socialize with other people?
- What about sports, Art, Music and other extra-curricular activities they may miss out on?
- Do I know how to teach my own children?
- What do I need? Does it cost and how much?
So let’s look at a few pros and cons of homeschooling according to other publications of my research.
On the Positive Side of Home Schooling
In the first place, Parents can tailor their lessons to fit their child’s abilities, maturity and interest.
Uniquely for many mothers and fathers homeschooling provides them with the opportunity to incorporate their values and beliefs into their child’s learning on a daily basis.
In the same fashion almost all homeschooling families say that homeschooling has played an essential role in bringing their family closer.
Coupled with the time that the mother or father spend teaching their children can foster a loving relationship in the family. As well as the time the children spend learning together.
By the same token most, if not all homeschooling parents and children enjoy the fact that they no longer have to work their lives around homework and school hours. Together with usually accomplishing in a few hours each day what typically takes a week or more to complete in a classroom setting.
This is encouraging:
Due to the fact that the parents spend more time with hands-on learning, homeschooled children can do away with homework. Which is what usually keeps public schooled children up late at night.
Moreover, families can schedule off season vacations and go on field trips. For example, parents can take their children to visit museums, zoos, and parks during the week as part of their learning experience.
On The Negative Side of Home Schooling
For the most part, It becomes even more challenging for single parents because they need to balance time between work and educating their children.
Many people still have a negative view of homeschooling your child/children. And it is not uncommon, even for friends and family to criticize those who choose to home- school their kids.
Equally, important homeschooling can be financially constraining as well. In light of this, a strict budget will have to be implemented to purchase materials.
Also not learning how to properly interact within a group can sometimes result in social and behavioral issues.
Here’s something to consider:
First of all, you are the first Teacher of your children, therefore you have the skills to teach. The reason you don’t think so is because our society says you have to be taught how to teach. And then have a certain degree of understanding of how to do this. And while I do agree that our teachers should have some training on how to teach our children, due to the different personalities, attitudes, and ways of learning. However teaching your own children doesn’t require this type of training.
In addition for Teachers, it is vital to have this training and a level of expertise because they are dealing with various home issues and situations through the child. And each child’s household is different.
Think about this:
When that child comes into the classroom, he or she is bringing more than just their back- packs, pen & paper. Equally a lot of them are bringing emotional hurt/pain mental anguish and even are spiritually broken. So that teacher has to and should be concerned enough to pick up on the child’s signals that something is bothering them. Oddly children know when they have a Teacher that cares about them and really want them to learn. In like manner, they can and will pick up on if their Mother/Father really love them or care about them.
Consider this, the child’s Teacher is an extension of the child’s Parent. Yep.
A good teacher will never send the child home with home work. According to Marva Collins founder of “Westside Preparatory School” and author of “Ordinary Children, Extraordinary Teachers.”
Now, this resonated with me being a single mom myself. Because I didn’t help my own children with their homework. Not to mention the fact that I explained to them that I need them to pay attention in class so they won’t have to do the work at home. I further continued because I am very busy taking care of them and they need to take care of themselves while at school. As they got older I explained that I have been out of school a long time therefore, I won’t be much help. So I would direct them to our encyclopedias and dictionaries.
When my sons were in grade school I didn’t want to send them to regular public school as I did their sisters. I got the experience of a private school with the eldest, as well as public. In light of this experience, I sent my sons to Montessori school.
Comparatively, this was a different concept and style of teaching developed by Maria Montessori, an Italian doctor who devoted herself to educating the children of Rome’s ghettos. Uniquely much of the education methods rely on hands-on learning, self-directed activity, and collaborative play. There is a particular focus on allowing children to make their own choices in learning, with a teacher guiding the process rather than leading it. Likewise, should you walk into a true Montessori school you’ll see these little people at age 3 & four washing windows, vacuuming, cleaning, writing cursive and learning algebra! In the same fashion by the time they are in the 3rd grade, they are encouraged to teach the younger students. Not only does this develop their leadership skills it also increased their communication skills. I saw this type of teaching as very interesting and useful.
At length when children are home schooled, their Mother/Father is their Teacher and therefore don’t have to deal with other children’s home issues. Again issues of broken spirits, emotional pain/hurts, and mental anguish. Because they’re teaching their own children. That being said a college degree is not necessary, as stated earlier you already know how to teach your children.
All things considered be sure to acquire the necessary materials needed to teach the various subjects. Coupled with setting aside a room or space in your home that will be conducive to learning. Obviously, this will create an atmosphere of preparing the mind to concentrate and focus. In short given these points, I would say weigh out the pros and cons according to your situation.
- Do your best to project out into the future to determine your decision.
- Gather as much information on the 3 types of schooling programs I laid out in this blog.
- Do your research and don’t create night mares for yourself.